Thursday, July 30, 2009

Vivica Fox turns 45

Today is Vivica Fox's birthday. Ain't she bad! Of course! She's a LEO! Vivica A. Fox, a talented actress who has been in popular movies like Set It Off, Two Can Play that Game, to Juwanna Man, and Kill Bill. Most recently, you've seen her in front and behind hte scenes producing her TV Land show, Cougar, where she sets older women up on dates with younger men. She is also known for gracing magazines such as People's Magazine, King Magazine, and Maxim Magazine.

I've always liked her for her acting chops and I've seen quite a few interviews with her and she's always seem real and down to earth. Check out this funny video of when she was on Punk'd w/ Ashton Kutcher.

She turns 45 today.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

The Lessons We Learn

As I skate on the line between 22 and 23 years old, I have been forced to deal with some really tough decisions and a few wake up calls that I'm glad I am learning early. It seems once you hit a certain age, the real world really kicks you in the ass. Though I have a lot to be thankful for, I am blessed to be in a position to have a job, a roof over my head, and the ability to support myself. Times get hard, I realize I cannot always do it alone, but I can't run from my problems either, and sometimes you have to turn to God for guidance.

A little prayer of guidance:

"Green pastures are before me, for which i have not seen.
Bright skies will soon be o'er me, where darkest clouds have been.
My hope I cannot measure, my path in life is free.
My Father has my treasure and He will walk with me."

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Rising Icon: Chrisette Michele

Chrisette Michele was featured on Rising Icons last night on BET and she looked fabulous as usual! I really like her as an artist, I've listened to both of her cds, I Am and Epiphany, and I can tell she is definitely going to be a big headliner in the near future. Her music is a mix of jazz, soul, and gospel and her voice is crazy! Below is video of her performance.

Friday, July 24, 2009

Brotha of the Week: Trey Songz

I keep saying I'm going to reinstate this weekly! I'm working on it! But for this week, we have Mr. Trey Songz. The picture above from the August '09 issue of Smooth magazine and his new cd Ready comes out September 1st. You can check out his blog: SeeFurtherThanIAm.

He's come a long way from his first single "just gotta make it". Looks like he's made it, and then some.
(photo from

Deconstructing the model: Black Velveteen

Lenny Kravitz on his song, Black Velveteen:

"Black Velveteen is about technology, and we're getting so pulled in by computers and technology and our kids have their face in the computers all day. We have our face in computers all day and the human relationship is being diminished by this so I figure...why not just create your own mate? And synthesize a human being. You get tired of it, you turn it off and put it in the closet, you know, like the vacuum cleaner. (laughs) You pull it out when you want it. Oh you don't want this one, and then you want, you start, it's probably going to happen one day."

For those of you who aren't familiar with Lenny Kravitz music, "Black Velveteen" was a single off of his 5 album released in 1999. Above is his idea of a black velveteen, the idea of "creating your own mate". I shudder to think that this might actually come true one day, but with technology moving as fast as it does, it seems like this is just around the corner.

What if we could do this?? What would happen to the basis of relationships between a man and a woman?

A few thoughts:

1. The foundation/basis for relationships would be destroyed. There would be no need to have any relationship aside from friendship as you would be able to create you own person to satisfy yourself. And sex is a huge part of a commited relationship, though the "love" aspect would still be there, cheating would probably be inevitable.

2. On the subject of monogamy. What would happen to men? What would happen to women? The argument still stands that being monogamous is going against your bodies natural tendencies. The whole "God didn't put us on this Earth to just be with one" idea. Not to make assumptions, but most men would probably be ok, their dominating and conquering nature might make it easy for them to adjust more than a female. Women on the other hand, we tend to be more emotional, not that we couldn't easily fall in love with the fact that we could choose any man to be with, but once we get emotionally attached, it's a bit harder for us.

3. How does religion play a role? What about the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman? There is really no easy answer to this, but my idea would be that there could be marriage between the two IF they agree to be faithful to each other. But how much harder would that be, if you could have your "black velveteen" at your beck and call. What about if you chose to practice polygamy? Polygamy involves two consenting individuals into taking on more than one mate, and if this practiced, then there would be no need for robotics.

4. We might actually all get along. An up side to having a "black velveteen" is there would probably be less marital disputes, less "hatin" on others, less having to worry about trusting your partner, and more acceptance for everyone's situation.

Bottom line. This is not an easy question to answer. There is always a lot of gray area when dealing with the opposite sex. I would love your opinion on this, as there is no easy answer...

Check out Lenny Kravitz's Black Velveteen video below:

JamRock Magazine: Melyssa Ford

Love this picture!

(Photo from

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Wendy Williams Leaves Radio

Wendy Williams reported yesterday on her radio show on WBLS in New York that she would be retiring from radio to focus on her new tv talk show, The Wendy Williams show, which airs on Fox, and BET daily.

I'm going to miss her on the radio, I always tuned in for her classic "How You Doin" and to hear her funny anecdotes about celebs. It always seemed like she was more genuine about her feelings than I see on her talk show. But her talk show is funny albeit, a little cheesy at times, and there tends to be a bit of dead air at times, which she often had on her radio show too. I won't compare her to other talk show hosts, since I think she's way too new to the television market. But, she is definitely carving out her place.

Her stint with WBLS lasted seven years, and in that time she was syndicated in many states.

CNN's Black in America 2

"Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world."

- Nelson Mandela

The first part of CNN's Black in America 2 with Soledad O'Brien was quite refreshing. Specifically the Journey for Change segment on Malaak Compton-Rock's efforts to reach out to teenagers at a school in Bushwick, Brooklyn, teach them, and take them out of their comfort zones to South Africa, where they volunteered with HIV-infected adults, and worked with orphans.

The 12 to 13 kids selected were documented sharing their experiences on being there and what it meant for them.

See that video here.

The best thing that I witnessed was how, in Malaak Compton-Rock's words, the children were becoming "global citizens". Her mission was to teach them to become well aware of the world that we are living in, the importance of giving back to their communities, and how they can apply those attitudes in the development of their future.
I think it was a success.

The Dont's of the Dos: Solange shaves her head

So this morning as I'm strolling through my usual sites, I see this picture up on Bossip of Solange Knowles with a shaved head. I don't like it. I'm hoping that when she does a video and really dresses up and fixes it properly my opinion will change, because this picture is not the best! I love the fact that she has an eclectic style and tries to embrace her natural beauty. And i'm sure she wanted a "change", or "remix", or "upgrade", but honestly some people just look better with hair on there head. Plain and simple.

Ever since Cassie shaved off half of her head it seems as if the world has gone into shaved crazy...the list now includes: Amber Rose, Cassie, Lala Vasquez, Rihanna, and Solange. Please let me know who I've left out. I can't say I'm really diggin it either. These stunts fall a little short in the originality category to me. And this is what tends to happen with trends in general. One will do a funky new look to stand out, then everyone attempts to outdo the funky and be FUNKY FRESH...but they end up looking like they're just in a funk. *whomp whomp*

It seems to me that this "look" really took off after Kelis's Bossy video hit tv, but I know many will say that when punk rock and rap began to merge, the hair really came out. Yet, even before her, there were plenty of these styles running rampant. *News flash*, not everyone can do it.

Not being a hater, just not in compliance.

Take a look at these celebs:

Lala Vasquez & Cassie..I admit, I think LaLa can pull it off better.


Amber Rose with her buzz...

and... Kelis


Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Christian Louboutin Platform Pumps

Now on sale for $474.60....i'm in love. My birthday's coming up...who wants to treat me?

An Ode to the Black Woman

I ran across this article in Clutch Magazine written by Alaina Lewis, and thought it was something worth repeating. Below are a few highlights that I loved, but you can read the entire article HERE.

Ode to the Black Woman

"We are not here to please the masses, we are here to exist apart from a myriad of circumstances that fight to cripple our existence. We’re not here to offend, fit in, or follow your lead, we exact a trail of our own making and find solace in being leaders even when the plan is still a mystery. We don’t stand to deliver your ideals to life, we mark our territory with our own point of view. We don’t care what people think of us, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. We’re not here to alter anyone’s perception because we know the world is ours for the making as long as we’re here to live in it.

The Black Woman, is a strong woman, born to be a fighter, and bred to win. We are remarkable in every fraction of our being, and hold a posture that’s unmistakable when you’re amidst our will and determination to succeed.

Our resilience and drive make us one of a kind fighters and completely irreplaceable by anyone’s means. We are Black Woman, dynamic in nature and should be regarded in high esteem. Here’s to the Black Woman and the road that you’ve taken, and the smile the sometimes gets forsaken, I applaud you for your efforts; they broke the mold when they made you."

Monday, July 20, 2009

Where Creativity and Foolishness Meet: The Music Video

I appreciate good videos.

I can appreciate Common, Maxwell, Musiq Soulchild, Erykah Badu... all artists who put effort into their music videos and seemingly, their music. Even Kanye, with his eclectic style of music, will make 2 or 3 music videos...if not to be different, at least to be happy.

Now as a disclaimer, this post is NOT about the "video girls" in videos, because as a realist, I understand that some songs are clearly for the club and you're going to throw in some "eye candy". But as a whole when the music video does not match the SONG, regardless to what type of music it is - Rap, R&B, Rock, Pop, Alternative, you name it - it's a train wreck to me.

Generally speaking, the lackluster performance and thought, or lack thereof, that goes into music videos these days is really unforgiving. Especially when we have the technology to really do big things. And I'm not discriminating. I'm pretty tired of seeing Beyonce dance around in spandex and pumps for the entire video. It was cute when she first did it for Diva, but Single Ladies, and Ego too? Do something different.

Look at some songs that had the videos to match:

COMMON - Come Close


ALICIA KEYS - Love me like you'll never see me again

These are just a FEW, but the point is if you put some thought into your music, you SHOULD put some thought into your videos. *Note to the artists: Videos can sell what the music doesn't.

But to each his own...and to each his own opinion, so share yours.

Friday, July 17, 2009

Why do we Judge her? Karrine Steffans

This is Karrine Stefans on the Today Show promoting her new book, The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce, and Keep the Man You Want. Lol @ the two women's faces while interviewing her!

So Karrine, otherwise known as Superhead, was the one in everyone's mouths (no pun intended)when she came out with her first book, dishing on celebrities and their freaky ways. Everyone dismissed her as the slut, whore, bitch who was taking someone's man and made every other woman look bad. I thought that too.

My problem? I judged her (past tense), just like most people did and still do.

My opinion? People are upset because she turned her "slutty" ways into a six figure book deal writing about what she's learned from her mistakes while playin the field. That's it. Doesn't sound much different then any other relationship self help book on the market, except she had some crazy experiences with some high profile people. She was a young woman who didn't know much about men, love, or respect for one's self. She grew up, did some self-reflection, wrote about it and got paid.

I hear a lot of women saying, why would I take advice from someone like her? or What she's saying, I already know. So what? Number one, if you read excerpts from her first book, Confessions of a Video Vixen, read it online, or went out and bought it, you're just as bad. Because all that book did was to reintroduce back in the game by telling everyone who she slept with. That's my only problem with her, she doesn't know how to be discreet, but even that I think she's learned, as you can see in the video. . .Number two: Don't front! I'm sure there are some real funny storeis and "how to illustrations" in the book that you and your girls can laugh too. You don't have to buy the book to learn something, you CAN just simply read it for entertainment.

A lot of tv and radio stations talked about her first book. And the reality is , both Confessions and the Vixen Diaries made it to the New York Times bestseller list, so whether or not you like it, you're opinion still makes her famous. What's the saying? All publicity is good pubilcity?

Ultimately, judging her is part of a larger problem, the catiness and judgement women have towards each other. But i'll save that for another post. She's making more paper than me, and probably most of you in her real life version of sex and the city. So respect her hustle, don't judge a book by it's cover.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009


Yea I'm diggin Maxwell right now. This is an old picture of him...what can I say, I miss his hair, but his new cd is pretty awesome. I've always been a fan of Maxwell for his mix of classic soul and heartfelt lyrics, and this cd is no different. My favorite tracks are: Bad Habits, Pretty Wings, Fistful of Tears, and Love You.

The only thumbs down is that there are only nine songs! Geez! I want more of Maxwell's creative genius! But the cd itself is a steal, i only paid 9.00 dollars at Target...and it throws back to the old school with the lyrics of each song on the inside cover! Very few ARTISTS...key that these days.

Buy it!

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

As I sit....

So in my quest to evaluate and reevaluate my life, i'm having one of those rock and a hard place moments. I feel like I want to try EVERYTHING, like seriously, I want to be a producer, writer, psychologist, dancer, makeup artist, singer, lawyer, shit everything! But I have a job, and a great one at that, working on a television show. So...*all smiles*....right?

Wrong. I'm feeling for a change, time to switch up again and go in a different direction. I don't necessarily like working in a cubicle all the time, and I'm kind of getting tired of this 9 to 5 business. BUT i have a job in my field of study, journalism...which i got right out of school...and it's been paying my bills. So i dont have any right to complain...

Ugh, anybody have this problem? It's pretty selfish of me to want more, when some people don't have anything. But, maybe a change of scenery is needed, or an additional job to pass the time, because after a year of working at the same place.. it's time for a switch to a different industry. I think if everyone alternated what they did for a living every couple months or every couple years, we would all learn so much about life in general and it would be a great way to meet people who you probably wouldn't encounter on a daily basis. So.. Fashion perhaps? Entertainment? Medicine? Shit, why settle when you can have it all?

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Contending with the Man in the Mirror

As I watched the heartfelt tribute poured out by fans and family alike at Michael Jackson's memorial today. One of the things that made me the most proud was World Humanitarian Award that Rep. Jackson Lee honored him with. I wish he could be alive to see it. The life and time of MJ will always be remembered through his songs, his words, and his performances. But we fail to remember that throughout all that, Michael lived a life of dedication and compassion for others.

His list of charities and organizations include: AIDS Project L.A. , American Cancer Society
Angel Food, Big Brothers of Greater Los Angeles, BMI Foundation, Inc., Brotherhood Crusade
Brothman Burn Center, Camp Ronald McDonald, Childhelp U.S.A., Children's Institute International, Cities and Schools Scholarship Fund, Community Youth Sports & Arts Foundation
Congressional Black Caucus (CBC), Dakar Foundation, Dreamstreet Kids, Dreams Come True Charity, Elizabeth Taylor Aids Foundation, Juvenile Diabetes Foundation, Love Match, Make-A-Wish Foundation, Minority Aids Project, Motown Museum, NAACP, National Rainbow Coalition...and the list goes on. You can see it here:

So in these past two hours, i've learned two things. One, I think it's time to make a change. Not a physical change, not a spiritual change, but a change in the way I give back while I'm here. True, I don't have the financial ability to do as much as MJ, but maybe one day I will. Until then, you do what you can to help your family, friends, and total strangers, as Michael did. And two, you should appreciate people while they are ALIVE.

He was a universal household name, an icon. He touched lives worldwide and he was a brilliant man for who he was, while taking on the burden of sharing his gift with the world. This should be a wake up call to everyone, to not waste your talent, and never waste your gift.

I may sound like i'm preaching, but so what. Sometimes you have to ask yourself, can I contend with the man in the mirror?

RIP ~~ Michael Jackson